Let me preface this post by first giving a little background on how I came to be a stay-at-home mom. Really, after 5 months of being job-free with littles, I certainly have to say that stay-at-home moms are the real GOATS (greatest of all time) lol.
I have literally been working my tail off since I was 14. My first job was as a dance teacher, coincidentally, to toddlers (2-5 year olds). Talk about cuteness overload.
From there I’ve probably had a total of 10-15 jobs that ranged from Coldstone Creamery crew member to Remote Nurse Case Manager. BY FAR, motherhood has been the toughest! *insert sweat drip emoji*
It’s been the toughest but also the most rewarding and fulfilling position I have EVER held. Even as a former nurse, y’all. I love my children (2 beautiful toddler girls)!
It’s a Challenging Season
Being a stay-at-home mom has definitely had its challenges and I’m only 5 months in! I know this is only the beginning as my babies are well, still babies. I know the busyness, the tantrums, and cleaning poop off of cloth diapers will be missed when I have teenagers. I’ll look back at this season and think whew, what would I trade for some cuddles right now?
But I know I have to remember in all stages of motherhood, especially being surrounded by babbles and grunts for snacks, that this is just a season. The bible lets us know that there’s a season for everything. (Ecclesiastes 3:1)
So in this season, however old your children are, you may be struggling with purpose. You may be struggling with how to live intentionally in your life, while also taking care of your little ones. Or maybe you want to know if there’s something MORE you should be doing in between the Word Parties and Coco Melon screen times.
The word of God lets us know that He knows the plans He has for us. Plans for good, a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11) He desires for us to walk in His purpose, His calling, and His will over our lives. If you’re wondering what that may be, it’s as simple as asking Him.
James 1:5 says if you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and He will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.
You’re Asking the Wrong People
What an amazing God that we can come to Him for clarity, wisdom, and guidance?! But how many times have you had such a deep question as “How do I find purpose as a stay-at-home?” and then searched it on Google.
Or asked a mom forum or the breastfeeding facebook group you’re in.
Often we ask everyone BUT God and wonder why we’re still wondering… Ask and you will receive, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be open to you. (Matthew 7:7)
Do you see those bolded action words? We take a part in receiving wisdom from God. We have to take action on what we’re believing to receive.
“Knowledge is raw information but wisdom knows how to use it”
Absolutely love this quote! It’s one thing to “know” how to be a stay at home mom but when you have Godly wisdom to WALK BOLDY in your calling?! Whew mama! The things you will accomplish!
God gives us strength to wake up when the babies do, to cook, to clean, to mother, to wife, and to do this 24 hours, 7 days a week. But the wise woman of God realizes her purpose is not in the daily mundane tasks but in the God who called her to this MINISTRY.
Motherhood is a Ministry
THAT is your purpose. Motherhood is a ministry and yours might look a lot different from the mom sitting next to you at small group or walking the mid-afternoon aisle at Target. That’s up to you and God to decipher.
But know, you’ll have to come to God asking IN FAITH. You have to ask what your purpose is WITH faith because after he reveals it to you, you’ll need that faith to WALK in obedience to what He called you to do.
“We must have confidence that God will align our desires with His purposes”
Be confident in your purpose, whatever, it may be. Don’t waver in your faith or calling mama! James 1:6 says “But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind.”
Have you ever been hit by a wave? It’s no easy feat to get back up after being slapped by mother nature. Especially if the waves are coming at you one after another.
That’s how the enemy attacks when our faith wavers. He causes us to be unstable and doubt that we can get through. But God says that he will never leave us or forget us sis, so get up and go ask God for wisdom in this very rewarding journey!