It was a few months after my second miscarriage, a 45-day miscarriage at that. Pregnant with my rainbow baby and an elderly woman at church said something that crushed my heart. She said, “Okay, try not to lose this one”. Talk about heart CRUSHING. It was losing a child quote that no future mother wants to hear. A negative quote that will forever be embedded in the mind.
As if losing a child was something I meant to do. Even something that I could have caused. God makes no mistakes.
Oh how I wish their was a response (besides walking away) that I could give her but honestly, I was in shock.
As I share that with you here, I also hope to encourage you during this time mama. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
God makes no mistakes and although I didnt have a positive experiencing with losing a child quotes said to me, I want you to.
So hear are a few pieces of motivation that I pray help you during this time.
Losing a Child Quotes
- “We loved him a lot, but God loved him more.” – Unknown
- God’s love is above everything because God IS love. He’s the exact definition. Compassionate and loving in all ways. Be comforted in knowing that your little one is completely loved by you but also by our Father in Heaven.
- “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11
- God has a plan set out for each and every one of His children. We won’t always know what’s next in that plan or why He does certain things but we have to understand one thing, His timing and will is perfect and always will be.
- “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller
- Love. Helen must be talking about love. The intangible things are most often the most beautiful things in the world.
- “And to think, the first thing he saw when his little eyes opened was the face of Jesus.” – Unknown
- I absolutely love this quote about losing a child.
- “…a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” – Ecclesiastes 3:4
- Ahhh, Ecclesiastes, there’s a time and a season for everything. Just like any season, it comes and goes. This season of heartbreak will not last forever but the memory of your child will.
- “There is no foot too small that cannot leave an imprint on this world.”
- Small children make a difference too, sometimes the biggest difference. Often in your heart.
- “You never arrived in our arms but you will always be in our hearts.”
- Although I could never hold my babies lost by miscarriage in my arms they will forever be in my heart. The memories of them, how I carried them, and the experiences I had will forever be embedded.
- “I carried you every second of your life and I’ll love you every second of mine.”
- This quote is truly precious and a great reminder of the moments you will never lose from your heart and memory.
- “Your loss is not a test. Your loss is not a lesson. Your loss is not a gift. Your loss is loss.” – Tim Lawrence
- Sometimes people will try to define your loss to make you feel better. Your loss can only be defined by you because it’s an experience that YOU went through. Not anyone else.
- “…weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.” – Psalm 30:5
- Thank the Lord for the joy that is everlasting! Trouble doesn’t always last. The Lord will always bring light in a dark situation.
- “Sometimes, reaching out and taking someone’s hand is the beginning of a journey. At other times, it is allowing another to take yours.” – Vera Nazarian
- Don’t try to do it on your own. Grief can be a lonely experience if you allow it but when you trust someone with helping you bear it, it will be easier to cope with.
- “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” – John 16:33
- Jesus has overcome the world. God didn’t promise that we would never experience trouble or grief but he did promise to send a comforter (the Holy Spirit) to help us endure through it all.
- “Grief is like the ocean; it comes on in waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” -Unknown
- Yes, grief can have its ups and downs but we have to cope and learn how to keep swimming. Just because you ar swimming along with your grief doesn’t mean forgetting your child. It’s just making sure you stay afloat so that you don’t sink.
- “We talk about them, not because we’re stuck or because we haven’t moved on. We talk about them because we are theirs, and they are ours, and no passage of time can change that.” -Unknown
- You will always be their parent, mother, father. That will never change.
- “A mother’s grief is as timeless as her love.” – Joanne Cacciatore
- Grief is timeless and so is a mother’s love. There is nothing like it.
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What do you say when someone loses a child?
Unless you have also lost a child, it’s hard to understand the grief of a parent who has lost a child. Losing a child quotes most often come from experience and always from the heart.
You can always tell a parent who has lost a child that you are praying for them. You can let them know that you don’t understand what they might be going through but you are here for them in any capacity that you can be.
How do you deal with the pain of losing a child?
Dealing with the pain of losing a child can be difficult. It takes time to heal to a point where you are able to cope. Each and every parent is created differently and therefore grieves differently and that’s okay. Allow yourself to grieve mentally, spiritually, and physically so that you can grieve well.
Loss of a Child Prayer
Dear Heavenly Father,
We thank you, Lord, for the opportunity to praise your name and give you glory. God, we pray over the heart of the dear parent that is reading this prayer. We pray that their heart not be hardened with grief but soft with love for you and the child they are mourning.
We pray that grief doesn’t overcome them but that they are able to cope with their loss and come out stronger for the future children and current children that they have. We pray that they find courage, confidence and strength in you God to allow them to get through.
Your word says that you will never leave us or forsake us and for that we are truly grateful. Allow this parent to trust in you with all their heart and lean not on their own understanding God. We ask Lord that you guide them in the path that you want to take them and envelope them with your love.
In Jesus name, Amen.