Last Updated on September 28, 2023 by Avi Steen
6 months after marrying the love of my life we were hit with baby fever and thought “let’s start a family!” If only it were that easy. Sometimes we don’t realize the struggles some marriages go through until we’re in it. Trying to conceive is one of those struggles.
But we turned our pain of infertility into a prayer to get pregnant and God did exactly that. I constantly thought, Lord, what is a prayer to get pregnant and he repeatedly directed me to the many barren women in the bible.
I found hope and encouragement in their testimonies.
How do you pray for the fruit of the womb?
Lord, your word says that children are a heritage from you and the fruit of the womb is a reward. (Psalm 127:3) I pray that you reward me with the greatest blessing of a child that I will raise in your name. A baby that I will raise to serve you as I serve you, with all their heart.
Can prayer help you get pregnant?
Prayer is meditation with the Lord and studies have shown that meditation is beneficial in decreasing stress. Infertility can indeed be a stressful season so prayer can only be helpful in encouraging a woman who desires to conceive. Whether it’s a prayer from a friend or in her own quiet time with the Lord.
What is the Story of Abraham and Sarah?
Open your Bible because we’re going to be studying the story of Abraham and Sarah. Genesis 11:30 is where the Bible first mentions that Sarah was barren and definitely in need of a prayer for a woman who wants to get pregnant.
“But Sarai was unable to become pregnant and had no children.” -Genesis 11:30
Before Abraham or Sarah’s name were changed they were Abram and Sarai. Also I’d like to note before it was mentioned that she didn’t have any children in the Bible it lists a family lineage of people who were having children, I just found that ironic.
Genesis 16 starts to talk more about Sarai’s trying to conceive journey. A story about a woman who wants to get pregnant and not being able to. At this time Sarah and Abraham are in their 80s, so they’re pretty old Abraham was at least 86.
“Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had not been able to bear children for him. But she had an Egyptian servant named Hagar. So Sarai said to Abram, “The Lord has prevented me from having children. Go and sleep with my servant. Perhaps I can have children through her.” And Abram agreed with Sarai’s proposal. So Sarai, Abram’s wife, took Hagar the Egyptian servant and gave her to Abram as a wife.” -Genesis 16:1-3
Here take my husband and go have my children… The Bible sometimes you know we’re not going to go there today!
When I read that I thought about the word desperation. Desperation came to mind. We get so desperate, not just in the realm of trying to conceive or having a baby but just any prayer in general that we have brought to God.
We get so desperate for the things that we want in life. The things we desire to have, that we start going out of the will of God.
We get so desperate to fulfill the prayer but it’s not your prayer to fulfill, God is the only one who can do that. But we want something so fast and so quick that we start to step out on God and not out on faith.
Abraham and Hagar
Reading on in the story, Hagar, of course, gets pregnant. She becomes pregnant and then Sarai gets mad. Kind of like Hannah did in 1 Samuel when she was being nagged by her husband’s other wife, Peninah. Sarai said in verse 5:
“This is all your fault I put my servant into your arms and now she’s pregnant she treats me with contempt. Lord will show you who’s wrong, you or me.” -Genesis 16:5
I love Abram. He said “Look, she is your servant, so deal with her as you see fit.”
Basically, you do what you see fit because you’re the one who told me to get her pregnant. That’s how our TTC journey is. We’re up and down and our hormones are up and down and I feel like that’s the sum of a TTC Journey.
To see other women get pregnant so easily. You know those fertile Myrtles, I know y’all have heard that term before. We see these other women get pregnant so easily and say “I wasn’t even trying” or “I got pregnant on the first try” and phrases like that.
Then for the woman who wants to get pregnant and has been trying for a very long time it can bring out those emotions like Sarai. It brings out sadness, grief, and depression. I just want to encourage you today.
In her journey, we get to see what Sarah was going through. What she went through is currently what some women go through as well.
What has happened in the Bible, we are going through these things right now. Women are going through the same exact things!
Hagar had a baby and they named him Ishmael.
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Why did Sarah Laugh in the Bible?
Let’s fast forward to Genesis 18:
Where is Sarah, your wife?” the visitors asked. “She’s inside the tent,” Abraham replied.
Then one of them said, “I will return to you about this time next year, and your wife, Sarah, will have a son!”
Sarah was listening to this conversation from the tent. Abraham and Sarah were both very old by this time, and Sarah was long past the age of having children. So she laughed silently to herself and said, “How could a worn-out woman like me enjoy such pleasure, especially when my master—my husband—is also so old?” -Genesis 18:9-12
The Lord said to Abraham, is anything too hard for the Lord? I will return about this time next year and Sarah WILL have a son.
What is God’s Timing?
To compare that to today’s time: is anything too hard for the Lord? No, nothing is too hard for our God and I know when someone tells you to trust in God’s timing it’s not something you want to hear, right?
But it’s something for me and when I was going through my TTC journey that I had to embrace. I had to embrace the concept of God’s timing because God’s timeline is perfect.
When I thought about my first miscarriage (I had two miscarriages back-to-back) the first I actually felt God open my womb and two weeks later I got a positive pregnancy test but then I started to miscarry and I’m like okay well Lord… Why?
I felt in my heart the Lord was speaking to me at that time and saying that it is not yet time.
It is not yet time.
I just wanted to let you know that you are able, the Lord said, your womb is open but it’s not yet time for a baby. Then, because I’m human, I didn’t heed to that.
I just started over-analyzing, still trying to conceive and also trying to do all the things. Then I conceived a second time right after that miscarriage and didn’t even have a period in between.
We conceived right after a miscarriage and I had a blighted ovum. It was a blighted ovum miscarriage (no fetus) and lasted 40 + days. After that I was like okay Lord, your will and not my will because his timing is perfect.
God is great!
I read in one of my devotions I’m currently reading 100 Days of Believing Bigger. It’s a devotional journal and it said “You may be good but God is great. He has a higher a wider and more eternal view”
In your TTC Journey you have tunnel vision right now. Think of an underground tunnel, that is you right now. The Lord can see it all he’s above that tunnel, he can see in the tunnel and around the tunnel. He can see through the tunnel and the end of the tunnel.
Right now in your journey you need to focus on the Lord and the vision he has for your life.
How did Abraham and Sarah have a child?
Genesis 21 says that the Lord had kept his word and did for Sarah exactly what he had promised! She became pregnant and she gave birth to a son for Abraham in his old age. This happened at just the time God had said it would. He said a year later and a year later he showed up!
I’m so touched when I read all of the stories of the barren women in the Bible because I read the struggle but also the testimonies. To the woman who has been trying for a really long time: rely on God, seek him with all of your heart and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Proverbs 3:5 says trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not unto your own understanding (because we don’t understand everything God does) but in all your ways acknowledge Him and He Shall direct your path! Acknowledge and turn to him in your TTC journey.
Seek the Lord see what it is that you need to change in your life in order to conceive.
A Prayer to Get Pregnant
Dear Heavenly Father, thank you. We thank you and give you honor today because you are worthy. We magnify your name, today God. For the woman who is praying for conception God, we know that you are able. We pray that wombs open up and your will be done in her life.
Lord, allow her to seek you with all of her heart and lean not unto her own understanding God. We just pray that you will encourage the woman who has been trying for a long time. Allow her to experience a peace that surpasses all understanding.
You know it all God, you can see above and beyond what we can see. We know Lord that you will bless exceedingly and abundantly above all we can ask or think of Lord, as long as we continue to seek you. As long as our hearts are turned to you and we just thank you for that Lord. We thank you for the promises over her life. In Jesus name, amen.
How has a prayer for conception helped you in your journey?
Octavia Steen is an NBDA certified fertility doula, health coach, certified fitness nutrition specialist, aspiring missionary with the COGIC, and owner of Mother Mindset. She helps future and current mamas become more consistent in faith + fitness and grow closer to God so they can create a healthier lifestyle from the inside out!