Time blocking as a stay at home mom, let me just tell you can be so beneficial for your productivity! You can get so much done if you just set aside the time to do it.
I use my calendar to block out time in my schedule to do specific task. I set timers which is the ultimate mom hack and make sure that I am focused on the task at hand.
Time blocks allow me to know what task is important at that specific time. When I’m using my block scheduling I know that if I am in a work time block then I am focused on tasks like emails, content creation, filming, writing instagram posts etc.
Block scheduling allows me to be more productive and realize where I waste my time. And really ain’t nobody got time for that.
How to Use Time Blocks
The time block method I use is simple. Start with the have-tos. What do I have to do today?
I have to sleep, duh. I know it’s silly but put it on the calendar.
Other things that I have to do include my morning routine with prayer and reading my Bible as well as my stay at home mom duties. Put it on the calendar
Next, what do I need to do to be productive today. Or really any day lol. Block out the time you have leftover from your have tos and use that time to be productive. Told you it was simple.
Theme Days for Time Blocking
Now as a stay at home mom, content creator, and entrepreneur I set up theme days to group my task for time blocking.
For example on Monday and Wednesday I’ll focus on my health and fitness coaching business tasks and then on Tuesday and Friday I would do content creation.
Maybe as a stay at home mom you focus on cleaning the house on Monday and Thursday and then me time on Tuesday and Friday. I don’t know you should probably clean your house every day but you get the point. lol
And that’s just a short overview of how I time block to be more productive as a stay at home mom and get more done! Check out the video above where I show you how!
How do you currently manage your time? Do you use time blocking? Leave a comment below!
In 1 month I was able to save 6300ml (210 oz) of breast milk using a haakaa pump! This liquid gold saver has been a complete breastfeeding gamechanger!
I started with one haakaa pump and in week 2, after my second daughter was born, I bought another haakaa to start double pumping and increase milk supply.
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Do you need two haakaas?
Your baby is a pump as well. When you are using the haakaa it’s when you have the haakaa on one breast and baby feeding on the other breast.
The haakaa catches the let down (initiation of breast milk) while feeding your baby.
Another thing the haakaa is good for is essentially tricking your body. When you use the haakaa while feeding your baby it signals to your body that there are two latches, which will help increase milk supply.
The electric pump was causing me to be a little more irritated with my breastfeeding journey and a pumping routine than I needed to be. Using the haakaa pump was so much easier!
What is a Haakaa?
A haakaa is a silicone breast pump that creates a suction to the breast and catches milk that would otherwise spill or leak into a nursing pad. It’s basically the main breastfeeding essential a mother needs.
The Haka pump is so good for just building the stash. You can take them wherever you want. They are not big and bulky like a normal manual or electric pump.
You can literally put them in your purse and grab & go.
I’ve also used them in public with my nursing cover while breastfeeding. I don’t recommend this if you have an active baby because they can knock the Haka off but for those first newborn stages it’s an excellent pump to use!
Who is it for?
The haakaa pump is for every nursing, breastfeeding, new and postpartum mama who wants to save or increase her breast milk supply!
Unlike regular electric or manual pumps the haakaa works by suction and is completely hands free! Which makes me love it even more so than my electric pump!
How Does the Haakaa Pump Work?
Like previously stated, the haakaa pump is a silicone breast pump that isn’t actually a pump. It catches the let-down of the attached breast to save milk.
There are a couple ways to attach the Haakaa pump and as demonstrated in the video above. You can either fold the flange back in suction to the breast or you can attach in suction without folding.
I personally have seen better results while folding the flange and suctioning to the breast. This method allows for a better hold and I have also received better output doing this method.
Why Do You Need a Haakaa Pump?
If you are a breastfeeding mother you need the Haakaa in order to save milk and save time. Like I stated before I saved 210 oz just in the first month of using the haakaa with my newborn.
Each time I fed her I would just attach the Haka as well and catch the milk that would usually spill or leak onto a nursing pad.
The milk that I caught in that first month has so many beneficial nutrients! When my toddler became sick I was able to give her some of my breast milk from the newborn stages to help heal her quicker.
What a blessing!
When Can You Start Using a Haakaa?
Many Physicians and lactation Consultants have varying opinions on when you should begin using a breast pump. In my personal experience I started to use a breast pump with my first born after the first month.
In comparison I started using the haakaa breast pump with my second born when my milk first came in which was about 48 hours after birth.
I believe because I didn’t initiate this process sooner I was able to increase and save more milk. You definitely want to consult your local lactation consultant in order to figure out what’s best for you.
Where Can You Buy a Haakaa Breast Pump?
Houses are now available to purchase on multiple websites as well as Target and Walmart. My first haakaa was actually a gift from my Amazon baby registry and I purchased my second haakaa on Amazon as well.
Frequently Asked Questions
Below are frequently asked questions that I’ve received from multiple mama’s on Instagram as well as on my YouTube channel so I thought I’d answer them here as well.
How Does The Haakaa Work?
The haakaa silicone breast pump works by suction. It uses suction to draw out milk from the milk ducts in your breast. When applied correctly it can pump as much as an electric pump would in a pumping session.
Does the Haakaa Pump Increase Supply?
Depends. The haakaa pump like any other pump can be used to increase supply depending on how often you are using it.
When I pump with my haakaa it is usually simultaneously while feeding. I have also used it in conjunction with my Medela manual pump when we are on vacation or on the go.
I find that I get the most out of it when I am feeding or pumping on the opposite side of the haakaa.
Also when using a haakaa pump I usually will keep it on until it has stopped dripping. This allows it to grab the most milk. Once it is finished and the haakaa is full I will then take that haakaa off, empty into a bottle and apply it again just in case there is some more milk to be collected.
Which Haakaa Should You Buy?
So which haakaa should you get? Easy! The most convenient the better. The haakaa that I would go for is the 5.4 oz haakaa that has a suction bottom so it doesn’t spill. Check out the latest prices for it here.
Overall, the haakaa pump is a must-have if you are a new breastfeeding mama. It will not let you down well it will, see what I did there. LOL. It truly is in my daily routine and I don’t know how mamas survive without it!
It was a few months after my second miscarriage, a 45-day miscarriage at that. Pregnant with my rainbow baby and an elderly woman at church said something that crushed my heart. She said, “Okay, try not to lose this one”. Talk about heart CRUSHING. It was losing a child quote that no future mother wants to hear. A negative quote that will forever be embedded in the mind.
As if losing a child was something I meant to do. Even something that I could have caused. God makes no mistakes.
Oh how I wish their was a response (besides walking away) that I could give her but honestly, I was in shock.
As I share that with you here, I also hope to encourage you during this time mama. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
God makes no mistakes and although I didnt have a positive experiencing with losing a child quotes said to me, I want you to.
So hear are a few pieces of motivation that I pray help you during this time.
Losing a Child Quotes
“We loved him a lot, but God loved him more.” – Unknown
God’s love is above everything because God IS love. He’s the exact definition. Compassionate and loving in all ways. Be comforted in knowing that your little one is completely loved by you but also by our Father in Heaven.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11
God has a plan set out for each and every one of His children. We won’t always know what’s next in that plan or why He does certain things but we have to understand one thing, His timing and will is perfect and always will be.
“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller
Love. Helen must be talking about love. The intangible things are most often the most beautiful things in the world.
“And to think, the first thing he saw when his little eyes opened was the face of Jesus.” – Unknown
I absolutely love this quote about losing a child.
“…a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” – Ecclesiastes 3:4
Ahhh, Ecclesiastes, there’s a time and a season for everything. Just like any season, it comes and goes. This season of heartbreak will not last forever but the memory of your child will.
“There is no foot too small that cannot leave an imprint on this world.”
Small children make a difference too, sometimes the biggest difference. Often in your heart.
“You never arrived in our arms but you will always be in our hearts.”
Although I could never hold my babies lost by miscarriage in my arms they will forever be in my heart. The memories of them, how I carried them, and the experiences I had will forever be embedded.
“I carried you every second of your life and I’ll love you every second of mine.”
This quote is truly precious and a great reminder of the moments you will never lose from your heart and memory.
“Your loss is not a test. Your loss is not a lesson. Your loss is not a gift. Your loss is loss.” – Tim Lawrence
Sometimes people will try to define your loss to make you feel better. Your loss can only be defined by you because it’s an experience that YOU went through. Not anyone else.
“…weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.” – Psalm 30:5
Thank the Lord for the joy that is everlasting! Trouble doesn’t always last. The Lord will always bring light in a dark situation.
“Sometimes, reaching out and taking someone’s hand is the beginning of a journey. At other times, it is allowing another to take yours.” – Vera Nazarian
Don’t try to do it on your own. Grief can be a lonely experience if you allow it but when you trust someone with helping you bear it, it will be easier to cope with.
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” – John 16:33
Jesus has overcome the world. God didn’t promise that we would never experience trouble or grief but he did promise to send a comforter (the Holy Spirit) to help us endure through it all.
“Grief is like the ocean; it comes on in waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” -Unknown
Yes, grief can have its ups and downs but we have to cope and learn how to keep swimming. Just because you ar swimming along with your grief doesn’t mean forgetting your child. It’s just making sure you stay afloat so that you don’t sink.
“We talk about them, not because we’re stuck or because we haven’t moved on. We talk about them because we are theirs, and they are ours, and no passage of time can change that.” -Unknown
You will always be their parent, mother, father. That will never change.
“A mother’s grief is as timeless as her love.” – Joanne Cacciatore
Grief is timeless and so is a mother’s love. There is nothing like it.
Unless you have also lost a child, it’s hard to understand the grief of a parent who has lost a child. Losing a child quotes most often come from experience and always from the heart.
You can always tell a parent who has lost a child that you are praying for them. You can let them know that you don’t understand what they might be going through but you are here for them in any capacity that you can be.
How do you deal with the pain of losing a child?
Dealing with the pain of losing a child can be difficult. It takes time to heal to a point where you are able to cope. Each and every parent is created differently and therefore grieves differently and that’s okay. Allow yourself to grieve mentally, spiritually, and physically so that you can grieve well.
Loss of a Child Prayer
Dear Heavenly Father,
We thank you, Lord, for the opportunity to praise your name and give you glory. God, we pray over the heart of the dear parent that is reading this prayer. We pray that their heart not be hardened with grief but soft with love for you and the child they are mourning.
We pray that grief doesn’t overcome them but that they are able to cope with their loss and come out stronger for the future children and current children that they have. We pray that they find courage, confidence and strength in you God to allow them to get through.
Your word says that you will never leave us or forsake us and for that we are truly grateful. Allow this parent to trust in you with all their heart and lean not on their own understanding God. We ask Lord that you guide them in the path that you want to take them and envelope them with your love.
There’s a misconception that there’s only one type of doula service, Birth Doulas, when in reality there are so many. One of those many are Fertility Doulas.
In short, a Fertility Doula supports a couple through their fertility journey by providing emotional and informational support. A Fertility Doula is specifically certified to also provide information on natural measures to help cleanse, prepare and support the body in preparation for conception.
A Fertility Doula, also known as a Preconception Doula, is often included in a Full Spectrum Doula certification but has been increasingly rising as an individual certification in recent years.
Full spectrum doulas provide services from preconception, through birth, and during postpartum.
Fertility doulas, on the other hand, provide support prior to pregnancy for women who are beginning their fertility journeys or dealing with infertility.
What does a fertility doula do?
A Fertility Doula is professionally trained to support couples during preconception to help them prepare emotionally and physically for pregnancy. Emotional preparation may include ways to combat stress of infertility and cope with waiting. Physically, some doulas review fertility charts to better assist and optimize clients success in getting pregnant.
Please note, if a fertility doula guarantees pregnancy, steer clear. Fertility doulas cannot guarantee an outcome of conception.
Spiritual preparation is included in the Fertility Doula services I offer here at Mother Mindset. I believe that faith and conception are directly correlated. I help my clients increase their faith while on their journey to conceive as a way to effectively cope with the process of conception.
Fertility Doulas are trained to identify different factors related to fertility to help optimize chances for conception. They often provide individual support to a woman who is trying to conceive but also may have various virtual courses, like Fertile Faith in 5, to assist in helping a group of women on their fertility journeys.
When should you contact a fertility doula?
For couples in the beginning stages of trying to conceive, a fertility doula can be helpful in providing information on tracking your cycle and optimizing your fertile window.
The beginning of a TTC journey can be quite overwhelming and sometimes all-consuming. A fertility doula can help clients navigate first steps in the conception process to better create strategies in their own journey to cope and pursue conception.
For couples who have been trying to get pregnant for 6-12 months or more, a fertility doula can help navigate next steps, as well as offer emotional support to assist in optimizing a sound mind and body for the journey.
For those experiencing infertility, fertility doulas can help identify and provide informational resources for options outside of natural conception.
Fertility Doula Support
As a Fertility Doula who incorporates a faith-based approach I help clients in multiple areas of their journey including nutrition, stress factors, ovulation, spousal support, trauma, and prayer. It’s important to find a doula who supports you in multiple ways as well as in your own individual beliefs.
Your doula is there to provide you support and advocate for your wants and needs. They can be a resource of support before or during fertility appointments to help you understand various procedures and terminology.
A community of supporters is so powerful for women who are trying to get pregnant. A fertility doula can be an essential part of that community.
Fertility Doula Pricing – How much?
It depends, some doulas charge by the hour while others charge a flat fee or packaged service price. Fertility Doula services range depending on the individual doula from as low as $50 for an hour consultation to $2000 for a package of various services over multiple weeks.
One hour consultations are ideal for specific questions or quick cycle reviews to see where a woman can make key changes in their conception plan for the following month.
Packaged services are for the woman who may require a more in-depth look at her TTC journey emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
Fertility Doula Packages
The main package I offer as a Fertility Doula includes:
Face to face (virtual) consultations to discuss nutrition, stress factors, ovulation, spousal support, and trauma
Unlimited text/email support
Fertility prayer during each session
The sessions are one hour in length and will be a detailed discussion of how to optimize your current journey. There is always room for questions as well.
Other packages I offer include an one hour session to discuss any questions you have about your fertility journey, faith-based fertility courses, and a fertility and fitness based accountability group that focuses on healing through physical health for conception.
To be honest, I wish I had made the investment in a Fertility Doula when I started my TTC journey. 6 months after marrying my husband we were hit with baby fever. We had discussed kids and the desire to wait 2 years before actively trying but after marriage comes a baby carriage, right?
At the time I was on the pill (birth control) and went cold turkey. One month went by and nothing. My thoughts: the birth control just needed to leave my body first (true, but also so many other factors were at play).
6 months went by and nothing so I started to do a little research. I was already tracking my cycle but only to the extent of knowing when my period would come.
I started to dive deeper into knowing the general day that I ovulated as well as researching all of the proper TTC terms. Another 6 months went by and I started to document my journey on YouTube. During the beginning of that new journey I prayed to God. I expressed to him my desire to have children and for a “sign” from him that it was His will for me to do so.
That next month I conceived for the first time in my life which unfortunately ended in back to back miscarriages.
During my second miscarriage (which lasted 40+ days) I gave my journey to God and worked on natural measures to help prepare emotionally, physically and spiritually for conception.
A month after my second miscarriage ended I conceived my rainbow baby. Now I have 2 beautiful daughters that allowed me to journey closer to God in the process of bringing them life.
So is getting a doula worth it? I’d say yes, especially if it’s a doula who has similar beliefs as you do. A doula who has been through some of the same experiences as you can be a great support system, especially during such a trying time as trying to conceive.
In conclusion, although there are many different types of doulas, fertility doulas is where it begins. Whether you are just beginning your journey or months into TTC, Fertility Doulas are here to help. Fertility doulas can help support you and your spouse in your journey to get pregnant and hold a precious baby in your arms.
6 months after marrying the love of my life we were hit with baby fever and thought “let’s start a family!” If only it were that easy. Sometimes we don’t realize the struggles some marriages go through until you’re in it. Trying to conceive is one of those struggles. But we turned our pain of infertility into a prayer of conception and God did exactly that. I constantly thought, Lord, what is a prayer for a woman who wants to get pregnant and he repeatedly directed me to the many barren women in the bible.
I found hope and encouragement in their testimonies.
How do you pray for the fruit of the womb?
Lord, your word says that children are a heritage from you and the fruit of the womb is a reward. (Psalm 127:3) I pray that you reward me with the greatest blessing of a child that I will raise in your name. A baby that I will raise to serve you as I serve you, with all their heart.
Can prayer help you get pregnant?
Prayer is meditation with the Lord and studies have shown that meditation is beneficial in decreasing stress. Infertility can indeed be a stressful season so prayer can only be helpful in encouraging a woman who desires to conceive. Whether it’s a prayer from a friend or in her own quiet time with the Lord.
Open your Bible because we’re going to be studying the story of Abraham and Sarah. Genesis 11:30 is where the Bible first mentions that Sarah was barren and definitely in need of a prayer for a woman who wants to get pregnant.
“But Sarai was unable to become pregnant and had no children.” -Genesis 11:30
Before Abraham or Sarah’s name were changed they were Abram and Sarai. Also I’d like to note before it was mentioned that she didn’t have any children in the Bible it lists a family lineage of people who were having children, I just found that ironic.
Genesis 16 starts to talk more about Sarai’s trying to conceive journey. A story about a woman who wants to get pregnant and not being able to. At this time Sarah and Abraham are in their 80s, so they’re pretty old Abraham was at least 86.
“Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had not been able to bear children for him. But she had an Egyptian servant named Hagar. So Sarai said to Abram, “The Lord has prevented me from having children. Go and sleep with my servant. Perhaps I can have children through her.” And Abram agreed with Sarai’s proposal. So Sarai, Abram’s wife, took Hagar the Egyptian servant and gave her to Abram as a wife.” -Genesis 16:1-3
Here take my husband and go have my children… The Bible sometimes you know we’re not going to go there today!
When I read that I thought about the word desperation. Desperation came to mind. We get so desperate, not just in the realm of trying to conceive or having a baby but just any prayer in general that we have brought to God.
We get so desperate for the things that we want in life. The things we desire to have, that we start going out of the will of God.
We get so desperate to fulfill the prayer but it’s not your prayer to fulfill, God is the only one who can do that. But we want something so fast and so quick that we start to step out on God and not out on faith.
Abraham and Hagar
Reading on in the story, Hagar, of course, gets pregnant. She becomes pregnant and then Sarai gets mad. Kind of like Hannah did in 1 Samuel when she was being nagged by her husband’s other wife, Peninah. Sarai said in verse 5:
“This is all your fault I put my servant into your arms and now she’s pregnant she treats me with contempt. Lord will show you who’s wrong, you or me.” -Genesis 16:5
I love Abram. He said “Look, she is your servant, so deal with her as you see fit.”
Basically, you do what you see fit because you’re the one who told me to get her pregnant. That’s how our TTC journey is. We’re up and down and our hormones are up and down and I feel like that’s the sum of a TTC Journey.
To see other women get pregnant so easily. You know those fertile Myrtles, I know y’all have heard that term before. We see these other women get pregnant so easily and say “I wasn’t even trying” or “I got pregnant on the first try” and phrases like that.
Then for the woman who wants to get pregnant and has been trying for a very long time it can bring out those emotions like Sarai. It brings out sadness, grief, and depression. I just want to encourage you today.
In her journey, we get to see what Sarah was going through. What she went through is currently what some women go through as well.
What has happened in the Bible, we are going through these things right now. Women are going through the same exact things!
Where is Sarah, your wife?” the visitors asked. “She’s inside the tent,” Abraham replied. Then one of them said, “I will return to you about this time next year, and your wife, Sarah, will have a son!” Sarah was listening to this conversation from the tent. Abraham and Sarah were both very old by this time, and Sarah was long past the age of having children. So she laughed silently to herself and said, “How could a worn-out woman like me enjoy such pleasure, especially when my master—my husband—is also so old?” -Genesis 18:9-12
The Lord said to Abraham, is anything too hard for the Lord? I will return about this time next year and Sarah WILL have a son.
What is God’s Timing?
To compare that to today’s time: is anything too hard for the Lord? No, nothing is too hard for our God and I know when someone tells you to trust in God’s timing it’s not something you want to hear, right?
But it’s something for me and when I was going through my TTC journey that I had to embrace. I had to embrace the concept of God’s timing because God’s timeline is perfect.
When I thought about my first miscarriage (I had two miscarriages back-to-back) the first I actually felt God open my womb and two weeks later I got a positive pregnancy test but then I started to miscarry and I’m like okay well Lord… Why?
I felt in my heart the Lord was speaking to me at that time and saying that it is not yet time.
It is not yet time.
I just wanted to let you know that you are able, the Lord said, your womb is open but it’s not yet time for a baby. Then, because I’m human, I didn’t heed to that.
I just started over-analyzing, still trying to conceive and also trying to do all the things. Then I conceived a second time right after that miscarriage and didn’t even have a period in between.
We conceived right after a miscarriage and I had a blighted ovum. It was a blighted ovum miscarriage (no fetus) and lasted 40 + days. After that I was like okay Lord, your will and not my will because his timing is perfect.
God is great!
I read in one of my devotions I’m currently reading 100 Days of Believing Bigger. It’s a devotional journal and it said “You may be good but God is great. He has a higher a wider and more eternal view”
In your TTC Journey you have tunnel vision right now. Think of an underground tunnel, that is you right now. The Lord can see it all he’s above that tunnel, he can see in the tunnel and around the tunnel. He can see through the tunnel and the end of the tunnel.
Right now in your journey you need to focus on the Lord and the vision he has for your life.
Genesis 21 says that the Lord had kept his word and did for Sarah exactly what he had promised! She became pregnant and she gave birth to a son for Abraham in his old age. This happened at just the time God had said it would. He said a year later and a year later he showed up!
I’m so touched when I read all of the stories of the barren women in the Bible because I read the struggle but also the testimonies. To the woman who has been trying for a really long time: rely on God, seek him with all of your heart and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Proverbs 3:5 says trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not unto your own understanding (because we don’t understand everything God does) but in all your ways acknowledge Him and He Shall direct your path! Acknowledge and turn to him in your TTC journey.
Seek the Lord see what it is that you need to change in your life in order to conceive.
Dear Heavenly Father, thank you. We thank you and give you honor today because you are worthy. We magnify your name today God. For the woman who is praying for conception God we know that you are able. We thank you for being a healer God. We pray that wombs open up and your will be done in her life.
Lord, allow her to seek you with all of her heart and lean not unto her own understanding God. We just pray that you will encourage the woman who has been trying for a long time. Allow her to experience a peace that surpasses all understanding.
You know it all God, you can see above and beyond what we can see. We know Lord that you will bless exceedingly and abundantly above all we can ask or think of Lord, as long as we continue to seek you. As long as our hearts are turned to you and we just thank you for that Lord. We thank you for the promises over her life. In Jesus name, amen.
How has a prayer for conception helped you in your journey?