What do you mean I’m not “really pregnant” as I asked my doctor what a blighted ovum was. They said I should experience an early miscarriage and start bleeding soon because there was no fetal pole, no fetus on the ultrasound. I was DEVASTATED and felt so alone…
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My Blighted Ovum Miscarriage Story
Almost two years to the date I experienced my second pregnancy and didn’t know I need bible verses for miscarriage to get me through the next few months. My first pregnancy ended in a chemical loss the month beforehand.
That was a very traumatic month for me as I learned that I was newly pregnant for the first time.
I also received a call from my mother who told me that my 16 year old cousin had committed suicide.
So my grief was twofold. Grieving the loss of a family member and then also grieving the loss of a potential pregnancy (and not wanting to share the news)
They decided (and I say “they” as in my doctor and OB at the time) it would be best if we wait for a couple of weeks and have another ultrasound.
My HCG was constantly rising and so I thought there’s got to be a baby in there.
A couple of weeks later I was diagnosed with a blighted ovum. A pregnancy with no fetus.
I was… hesitant to accept the news and the diagnosis. Some could say I was in denial.
But through it all my trust was in the Lord. I trusted God to get me through and I trusted His will for my life. Trusted that because He put in my heart the desire to become a mother that it would come to pass.
I didn’t know if it was going to be that same year or the next or 10 years from then but prayed and shared my TTC journey on YouTube.
It Lasted So Long
Sharing was a coping mechanism for me especially during this miscarriage because technically without a fetus I’ve been miscarrying since the beginning of the pregnancy.
We chose not to proceed with a D&C procedure or the pill and let nature and God take its course. Then I started to miscarry and bleed shortly before what would have been the second trimester.
I bled for 45 days.
Shortly after, I ended up taking a pill to help the process a couple of weeks prior to the miscarriage ending because it was taking so long.
But I don’t want to alarm you! I know there are plenty of women who experienced WAY shorter miscarriages. But everybody’s experience is definitely different.
Blighted Ovum Explained
A blighted ovum is also known as an anembryonic pregnancy. (an- meaning without and embryonic meaning embryo). So it’s a pregnancy without a fetus.
In my case, and most cases, pregnancy symptoms will occur with a positive pregnancy test including in the urine as well as the blood.
At one point, my HCG (pregnancy hormone detected on pregnancy tests) reached 40,0000 (lowest positive pregnancy tests show around 6-25hcg). The fertilized egg implanted but did not grow into a fetus, causing the increase in pregnancy hormones and symptoms.
I was SURE and had complete FAITH that I was pregnant!
Spiritually in my mind and physically through my body!
As I discussed before, that pregnancy was diagnosed with a blighted ovum and ended in miscarriage.
What Causes a Blighted Ovum?
According to a blighted ovum study conducted in 2019 and linked here, blighted ovums are mainly caused by genetics. Chromosomal abnormalities account for most studied miscarriages.
Spiritually, my belief is that God allows certain situations to occur to build our faith as well as build His kingdom.
Faith as it pertains to your trying to conceive journey is immensely important.
I mean sis… The definition of faith is hope for things not seen, right? (Heb 11:1) That is LITERALLY what TTC is about.
Hoping for a baby that does not yet exist..
What to do AFTER a Blighted Ovum Miscarriage?
So you’re probably wondering I’ve experienced the blighted ovum now what
What should I do next?
After I experienced my blighted ovum I had to continue to receive blood tests to check the amount of pregnancy hormones in my system. Once we received a blood test of 10 HCG we stopped testing.
Then more waiting, of course a pillar of trying to conceive, started.
How Long Should I Wait?
The blighted ovum I experienced was immediately after a chemical pregnancy so I decided to wait a whole cycle (so 1 complete cycle) before trying to conceive again.
This means waiting for the next menstrual cycle in order to make sure that all tissue from the previous miscarriage was cleansed and that the uterus is prepared to conceive again.
In my experience, this was important because every time you go through a new cycle you create a new uterine lining to allow for proper implantation.
If that new lining does not have time to regenerate or heal, it can make implantation, getting pregnant, and staying pregnant difficult.
But ultimately the wait is up to you.
Whether you wait a month or you wait a year, emotional healing and mental health comes first.
It’s okay to wait longer if you’re not emotionally ready for a new pregnancy or for the trials of trying to conceive.
For me, waiting a month was enough because during my very long miscarriage I was able to heal more emotionally than if my miscarriage were just a week.
And that next month I did conceive my rainbow baby and we are so grateful for her. At the time of this blog post she is currently 11 months.
Rainbow Baby
Here is a list of things I did in the month that I conceived my rainbow baby.
Pregnancy after miscarriage is definitely difficult. Having faith over fear of losing yet another child, can sometimes be daunting. But it’s possible sis.
I want to provide you with some scriptures and verses from the Bible to help you navigate this exciting yet nerve wracking time of your life. Pregnancy is so amazing and conceiving your rainbow baby is definitely something to be cherished!
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Pregnancy after miscarriage
I know there are a lot of women who, first of all, who have had miscarriages like myself. 1 in 8 women experience miscarriage.
Personally, I’ve had two miscarriages, a chemical, as well as a blighted ovum that lasted 40+ days in 2018.
I have had one successful pregnancy since, my rainbow baby Ava. And I’m actually pregnant currently again and have been asked about this topic multiple times on my YouTube recently.
Overcoming Fear
I just wanted to make this post to encourage women who are afraid of pregnancy after miscarriage or who are currently pregnant and have that fear of miscarriage in the back of their minds.
It’s hard to control thoughts but controlling what happens after the thought dictates how the thought will make you feel. We sometimes let the enemy get the best of us.
But we have to cast the enemy out of our lives and thoughts. Specifically out of our minds because it is the gateway to everything else.
Jesus said “Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are?” (Matthew 6:26)
They don’t have to learn to depend on God, they just do.
Without worries, without thought, and that’s how we should live our lives as well. Knowing that He will provide us everything that we need.
Pregnancy after miscarriage: He Has a PLAN!
No need to worry sis because he has already set in place for you and your future children a plan. He has a plan and perfect will for our lives (Jeremiah 29:11)
But seek ye first the kingdom of God and all his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you. Take therefore no thought for the morrow for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. (Matthew 6:33-34)
Don’t think about tomorrow sis because tomorrow ain’t thinking about you!
Today is the time to live in the present. Live in what God has planned for you today.
He has a plan for you tomorrow but we don’t need to worry about what’s going to happen tomorrow we need to stick with what’s going to happen today. Specifically, what we can do today to better our lives and possibly contribute to bettering someone else’s.
During this pregnancy, this current pregnancy don’t think about what’s going to happen tomorrow…
Or what’s going to happen next?!
What I learned is to just put ALL my trust in God because He has a plan and however many days he has planned for this child to live, that is how many days this child will live.
Although my heart and soul longs for this to be a healthy pregnancy and I’m praying and believing that this will be a healthy pregnancy at the end of the day it’s all in God’s hands!
So When Should I Announce A Pregnancy After Miscarriage?
Totally up to you and your spouse sis. But I want to encourage you to make the decision out of faith and not fear.
Having faith over fear is simply a shift in mindset.
If you were to announce as soon as you found out, what would happen compared to announcing in the 2nd trimester?
Would your family support you less? Probably not.
I’m actually really happy I decided to announce my second pregnancy early in the first trimester because I didn’t do so with my first miscarriage and felt SO ALONE.
There’s no need to put that burden on yourself. Pregnancy is truly an exciting time to be cherished and shared. Especially pregnancy after miscarriage. You’re going to need that support sis!
I pray that God’s will be done over your life and the life of your children. That He embraces you with His everlasting love and you feel the warmth of His presence knowing that He will provide for you. I pray that God sends positive thoughts and scriptures to your mind daily to help you cope with a new pregnancy and allow his scripture to pierce through your heart.
My hopes for you are that your miscarriage doesn’t leave you with a broken heart but instead places a patch where brokenness was felt. I pray that God allows your heart to open and fill more with love for more children including the one you are currently carrying.
Sis, I pray that as you journey through a new pregnancy you stop to touch your belly every once a while and Thank God for the tiny blessing he is harvesting inside of you. Sis, you are fearfully and wonderfully made and definitely made for this, so walk in your purpose and walk in your truth. You are strong enough to endure this process with God by your side. Amen
Comment below your go to scripture or motivational quote for surviving pregnancy after miscarriage!
Finding peace after loss can be very difficult especially when that loss is a child. I searched and searched through the Bible for comfort and for peace. I found Bible verses for miscarriage and encouragement. These few miscarriage Bible verses that I’m going to discuss personally helped me through my miscarriage but there are plenty more in the Bible to explore.
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Here’s My Story
Almost two years to the date I experienced my second pregnancy and didn’t know I need bible verses for miscarriage to get me through the next few months. My first pregnancy ended in a chemical loss the month beforehand.
That was a very traumatic month for me as I learned that I was newly pregnant for the first time I also received a call from my mother who told me that my 16 year old cousin had committed suicide.
So my grief was twofold. Grieving the loss of a family member and then also grieving the loss of a potential pregnancy (and not wanting to share the news)
We had been trying for almost a year, no it was actually a year that we had been trying to conceive and finally we saw the two lines.
The chemical, yes, was devastating but we decided to try again the next month.
We actually had success and that takes us to my second pregnancy. A pregnancy that also ended in loss. But this was a different kind of loss.
As with all pregnancies and all miscarriages, every one of them is different.
We actually got to our first ultrasound at 6 weeks pregnant and was told there was only a yolk sac but because I had had a chemical prior to this new pregnancy the doctor thought my days and dates we’re probably off (even though I tracked ovulation) and that it was too early to tell.
We Weren’t Expecting This…
They decided (and I say they as in my doctor and OB at the time) it would be best if we wait for a couple of weeks and have another ultrasound. My HCG was constantly rising and so I thought there’s got to be a baby in there.
Couple of weeks later I was diagnosed with a blighted ovum. A pregnancy with no fetus.
I was… hesitant to accept the news and the diagnosis. Some could say I was in denial.
But through it all my trust was in the Lord. I trusted God to get me through and I trusted His will for my life. Trusted that because He put in my heart the desire to become a mother that it would come to pass.
I didn’t know if it was going to be that same year or the next or 10 years from then but prayed and shared my TTC journey on YouTube.
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It Lasted So Long
Sharing was a coping mechanism for me especially during this miscarriage because technically without a fetus I’ve been miscarrying since the beginning of the pregnancy.
We chose not to proceed with a D&C procedure or the pill and let nature and God take its course. Then I started to miscarry and bleed shortly before what would have been the second trimester.
I bled for a total of 45 days.
I ended up taking a pill to help the process a couple of weeks prior to the miscarriage ending because it was taking so long.
The Lord Called Moses up to Mount Sinai where Moses waited 6 days. On the 7th day the Lord Called Moses to the cloud resting at the top of the mountain. He remained with the Lord 40 days and 40 nights.
Today I had my labs drawn and I am bleeding red but light and God is still good! Through these 40+ days he has shown me his glory and my purpose to spread his truth. I am so grateful for this process of climbing up the mountain, no matter how hard it is because that just puts me one level closer to God.”
I found out I was pregnant for the second time ever February 23, 2018. My second baby went to heaven that year as well. From February to June I dived deep with the Lord. A month after (July) I conceived my rainbow baby Ava.
I prayed and journaled and went to Bible Study at church twice a week to learn more about Him and about His purpose for my life.
His Word is what kept me going through all those days through all those months. His Word still keeps me going and I hope I can encourage you today through some of the scriptures He shared with me during my journey.
Bible verses for miscarriage
1. Abraham never wavered in believing God’s promise. In fact, his faith grew stronger, and in this he brought glory to God-Romans 4:20 NLT
Humans waiver and flip flop but God is a constant God. Stay encouraged through the battle and continue to give honor and glory to God.
2. The generous will prosper; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed. -Proverbs 11:25 NLT.
On this day the Lord dropped the word “refresh” into my spirit. Even though it feels like something is being constantly taken from us, we need to be generous in spirit and refresh others with the individual gifts that God has given us.
3. And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. Romans 8:26 NLT.
It’s such a good thing to have the Holy Spirit because when you’re experiencing loss it’s so hard to pray. Especially when you’re trying to pray for yourself. Let the Holy Spirit do it for you sis.
4. In all of this, Job did not sin by blaming God. Job 1:22 NLT.
In the book of Job, he had everything. Multiple animals, a huge family but it was all taken from him and yet he did not blame God. Sis I know it can be easy to cast blame for what happens especially in a miscarriage but all things work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose and will for your life.
5. Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. 2 Corinthians 12:9 NLT.
He gives power to the weak and strength to the powerless. Those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. Another great scripture. If we were strong all the time we wouldn’t know what it would feel like to be weak and grow in strength. You are a TTC Warrior and a mother who is strong beyond her knowledge.
6. Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. Colossians 3:23 NLT.
Your everyday life is your ministry. Imagine if Jesus said this is too hard. Whatever he went through, whatever you’re going through currently, you can get through it as long as you work hard for the Lord.
7. For God called you to do good, even if it means suffering, just as Christ suffered for you. He is your example, and you must follow in his steps. 1 Peter 2:21 NLT.
God has placed certain people in your life to grow your faith. He’s also placed you in certain situations in order to grow your faith as well. Jesus never retaliated or threatened or planned revenge on the things that he went through or the people that did him wrong. He went to the Father instead.
8. The Word gave life to everything that was created, and his life brought light to everyone. John 1:4 NLT.
Do you know who you are? God knows. Sis, you were built by God and in order to understand your purpose you have to let God know your heart. Tell him you love him, he deserves the praise! Jesus is not only our life but our light.
9. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. Romans 12:2 NKJV.
Renew your mind in the word daily! We are new creatures and all things are made new. God will see you through this because he knows every step, every tear, and every blood stain. He knows what His perfect will for you is.
I pray that this blog post has blessed you and I would love to hear in the comments below some of the scriptures that got you through your loss.
